“I Don’t Have Time” Simply Doesn’t Cut It
The silent struggle leads to unnecessary struggle.
Growing up, many of us were taught that showing emotions was a sign of weakness. I remember my own father, who had a tough-love approach to parenting, rarely opened up about his feelings. That’s not a criticism, it was just ‘the way things were.’
This lack of emotional openness created a cycle where, as children, we were not truly given the opportunity to process our emotions either. At the very least, we modelled our approach to emotions off the teachings of a father who wasn’t given the tools himself to experience his emotions.
This cultural norm of a generational-suck-it-up-and-move-the-fuck-on-silence continues to plague men’s mental health today.
The statistics are sobering.
- In 2020, more than 75 per cent of the 3139 Australians who died by suicide were men.
- According to Beyond Blue, one in seven Aussie men will experience depression in their lifetime. This is equivalent to 1.3 million men.
- One in five men will experience an anxiety condition in their lifetime. This is equivalent to 2.3 million men.
Men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues, and this reluctance can have devastating consequences at home, in communities and in the workplace.
The stigma surrounding mental health prevents many from speaking up and seeking the support they desperately need. Unfortunately, there’s more work to be done.
June marks Men’s Mental Health Awareness Week (10-17 June), an incredibly important time for us at Awake Academy. In a world where so many men are struggling in silence, we need to shine a light on their mental health and wellbeing.
But to see the change, we need to be the change.
The Importance of Vulnerability
The alarming statistics on men’s mental health are not just numbers; they represent real lives affected, with families and workplaces grappling with the consequences. At home, untreated mental health issues can lead to strained relationships and a lack of emotional connection. The ripple effect is profound, impacting partners and children who may struggle to understand or support their loved one’s silent battle. This creates a cycle of emotional disconnection that can persist through generations if left unaddressed.
In the workplace, the impact is equally concerning. Mental health issues can significantly affect productivity, job satisfaction and overall workplace morale. When men are reluctant to seek help, they may encounter burnout, increased absenteeism, and even more severe consequences like suicide. This not only affects the individual’s career trajectory but also places additional stress on colleagues and management who may not be equipped to provide the necessary support. Addressing mental health openly and proactively in both personal and professional settings is crucial to fostering healthier, more supportive environments where everyone can thrive.
Steps to Create Change
1. Recognise and Acknowledge Your Emotions
The first step towards change is recognising and acknowledging your emotions. It’s essential to understand that it’s okay to feel a wide range of emotions, from joy to sadness to anger. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step towards processing them and finding healthy ways to cope.
2. Seek Support
Seeking support is a sign of strength. Whether it’s talking to a trusted friend, joining a support group, or seeking professional help, reaching out is crucial. There are numerous resources available, including mental health hotlines, counselling services, and online communities. Don’t hesitate to take advantage of these resources.
I encourage you to find someone in your life with whom you feel comfortable opening up. The important thing is to take that first step and start the conversation. Remember, you are not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help.
3. Practice Self-Care
Self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. Taking time each day to care for your mental and physical wellbeing is essential. This could include activities like meditation, exercise, journaling, or simply taking a few moments to breathe and relax. Small acts of self-care can have a significant impact on your overall wellbeing.
4. Foster Open Conversations
Creating a culture of openness starts with us. Encourage open conversations about mental health in your circles. Share your experiences and create a safe space for others to do the same. By cultivating a supportive environment, we can break down the stigma and encourage more men to seek help.
Vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s a strength.
By sharing our struggles and being open about our mental health, we create a space where others feel safe to do the same. Vulnerability fosters connection and understanding, which are essential for emotional wellbeing.
5. Educate and Advocate
Education is key to breaking the stigma surrounding mental health. Take the time to educate yourself and others about the importance of mental health. Advocate for mental health awareness in your community and support initiatives that promote mental wellbeing.
Wellness Starts at Home, with YOU
Self-reflection is a powerful tool for personal growth and self-awareness. Take the time to reflect on your experiences, emotions and behaviours. Understand what drives you, what challenges you and what brings you joy. Self-reflection allows you to gain insight into your mental health and make positive changes in your life.
At Awake Academy, we believe that every individual has the power to create positive change in their lives and the lives of others. By raising a generation of self-aware men, we can build a society where men feel empowered to speak up, seek help and live authentic, fulfilling lives.
As we focus on men’s mental health this June, let’s remember that change starts with us. By breaking the silence, embracing vulnerability and supporting one another, we can create a world where men feel seen, heard and valued.
Join us for our very-first Men’s Only Own Your Truth Live
Be the change you want to see at home and in the workplace
If you, your workplace or your family member wants to BE the change we want to see in the world, join us on June 14 for our first-ever Men’s Only, Own Your Truth Live Event. Together, we can create a movement towards mental health and emotional wellbeing for all men to be more present, productive and purposeful. The time for change is now. Will you join us?
Be brave enough to start a conversation about mental health.
Be strong enough to seek help when you need it.
Be vulnerable enough to share your struggles.
You’ve got this.
Layne xx
