We Can’t Control the Waves, But We Can Learn to Surf
There was a moment in my life that still echoes in my mind today. My husband, Kirk, looked at me and said, “Why do I always get the broken Layne?”
It was a gut-wrenching moment but eye opening moment. I was giving him the most depleted version of myself, someone exhausted from years of pushing through, convinced that success meant sacrificing my well-being.
I had achieved so much on the outside, but on the inside, I felt completely drained.
That moment was a wake-up call. I realised I couldn’t continue running on empty. This realisation marked the turning point for me, as I committed to turning my attention inward and investing in my mental wellbeing.
It took hitting rock bottom to truly understand that mental fitness isn’t something you can simply “switch on” when things get tough. It’s something you must cultivate every single day. It became my focus, my practice, my journey…one I believe is as important as any physical training.
Five Simple Steps to Build Mental Resilience
Tess and I were approached by A Current Affair to explain how we cultivated the tools to thrive, into a simple daily practice.
These practices are the bedrock of our daily routine, helping us stay grounded, calm, and focused. Here’s what we’ve learned and what we share with our community:
- Box Breathing
The simplest technique with the most immediate impact. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and hold for 4 seconds. This resets your nervous system and centres your mind. - The ‘I Am’ Mantra
We all have an internal dialogue that shapes our mindset. By choosing a daily mantra, such as “I am calm” or “I am focused,” we take control of our mental narrative and define how we show up each day. - Make Your Bed
The small act of making your bed sets a productive tone for the day. It’s a simple task that gives you a sense of accomplishment and order, which can translate into bigger wins throughout the day. - Hydrate Your Brain
Our brains need water to function at their best. Start the day with a glass of water to jumpstart your body and mind. It’s a small habit that can yield big results in terms of clarity and focus. - Gratitude and Reflection
Take time each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. It shifts your mindset from scarcity to abundance and brings positive energy into your life.
The Science
I know these practices may seem simple, but they’re grounded in science. Techniques like box breathing and mindfulness aren’t just for yogis, they’re used by high-performance teams across the world, from the military to top corporate leaders. These tools are proven to reduce stress, improve focus, and help you show up as the best version of you, as often as possible.
Life’s Waves: The Ups and Downs
We can’t control the waves we face, but we can learn how to ride them.
Through my own experiences, I’ve realised that it’s not about avoiding the tough times; it’s about learning how to face them with strength and resilience. Mental fitness gives us the tools to navigate life’s ebbs and flows with grace and confidence.
If you’re ready to embrace mental fitness as part of your daily routine and transform how you approach life’s challenges, I invite you to join me and Tess at Awake Academy. We’ve created a space where you can learn, grow, and practice resilience alongside a supportive community.
You’ve got this!
Love Layne xx
